The Spiral: What to do when life is challenging

Have you ever been caught in the spiral of a challenging day? The alarm doesn’t go off because the electricity is out, and not only can you not make coffee, but you are definitely late for a meeting with your boss. Or, even more dramatic, have you experienced a series of life-changing losses all in a row?

We have all had these moments. Life is full of events that we tend to categorize as good or bad, which can trigger emotional reactions and lead to feelings of euphoria or deep sadness.

How do you handle the spiral of life? Do you look up and pursue the opportunities and growth these challenges provide, or do you look down and fall into old patterns and habits that are not in your best interest?

I have spent a lifetime trying to look up. Even with the conscious pursuit of seeking opportunities and growth in the challenges life presents, I too sometimes look down. Just recently, I experienced a significant change in my professional life. At first, I tried to stay neutral and at least keep my gaze on the horizon. But as others continued to question the change and provide their thoughts and feedback, I found my peace disturbed. I was not only suddenly looking down, but I was also on a quick trajectory toward old, damaging, self-sabotaging behaviors, high anxiety, and paralyzing fear. After a week of living in the spiral downward, I caught myself. At first, it was painful to acknowledge that, despite all my training, experience, and beliefs in gratitude and positive thinking, I had entered into a space of negative thinking and worry.

Then I decided to use one of my tools in my design success toolkit. I asked myself how I would love and support a friend. I made a list of all the inward and outward practices that feed my positive mindset and of all my favorite activities that make me smile. Just writing the list made my heart lighter, and as I purposefully focused on putting this list into action, I quickly found my resilience and began to look up the spiral toward the amazing opportunities headed my way.

I also congratulated myself on recognizing and catching myself in the downward momentum. I was very proud of my growth and ability to move forward with love and care for myself—the same love and care I would give a dear friend in the same situation.

Do you look up or down the spiral of life? What do you practice, and what tools do you utilize when you find yourself looking down instead of up when a challenge comes your way?

Remember, you are important! Remember to love yourself!

With Gratitude and Love,

Melisa